Hello! It’s been a busy week, so I’m just going to jump right in….
…four things from the internet + a list of things that made me happy this week!
Love this post from Bevin at Queer Fat Femme about how to think and talk about our own and other people’s food choices. How many times have you or someone you know said something about how “bad” you’re/they’re being, or spouted that deeply telling plea, “Don’t judge me!” right before eating something that has been deemed un-clean food? Bevin reminds us that placing value on food choices perpetuates body-shaming culture: “I think the best thing we can do, as fat folks and folks working in solidarity with us, is to refuse to participate in the system of body currency perpetuated by society. A system of body currency, where certain bodies are privileged over other bodies, creates competition, body hatred, feelings of never being enough, endless fear about body change. Body currency doesn’t just affect fat folks, it affects folks with any non-normative body–people of color, older people (we are literally all aging), disabled folks (we are literally all only temporarily able bodied), trans* folks, etc.” Instead of attaching shame to yours or others food choices, Bevin suggests saying out-loud, things like, “Cultivating a culture of food enjoyment is really important to me. I would love to enjoy this delicious food instead of assigning value to it!” Yes!
Welp, this advice column on Autostraddle was all the feelings for me this week. I have referenced, vaguely, how life has been challenging for me the past two years. Things got worse before they (kind of) started to get better almost exactly at the moment I turned 30. Although there’s a lot going right in my life, a bunch of shit also went very wrong (or at least…off my intended course). And having to start from scratch in certain areas of your life feels especially weighty at this age society tells us is the point that you should actually have your shit together. What happens when your shit is the opposite of together and you are 30? Well, a change in perspective would help, to start. Crystal writes, “…remember that adulthood isn’t about having a relationship and a mortgage. It can mean lots of different things to different people but I think it’s mostly about taking control and responsibility for your life — no matter what that life looks like. Having a failed relationship and building furniture with Allen keys has no correlation to your maturity and ability to be good at life. You’re doing the best with what you have, and I hope it’s not long before you can start to feel proud of it.” The whole thing is great and worth a read. I found it very comforting. <3
Tired of me linking to articles about racism? Guess who else is tired? People of color who are victims of racism every.single.day. This is another excellent article that reveals an important truth about the challenges of talking to white people about racism: “White people and Black people are not having a discussion about race. Black people, thinking as a group, are talking about living in a racist system. White people, thinking as individuals, refuse to talk about “I, racist” and instead protect their own individual and personal goodness. In doing so, they reject the existence of racism.” Please read the whole thing and share with others. We can’t stay silent. People are dying.
I’m not sure if this is a Midwest thing or not, but growing up, creamy broccoli salad was a staple at picnics and other summer gatherings. It included broccoli, raisins, some crunchy add-ins, and was covered in a thick creamy mayonnaise-based sauce. I never liked mayonnaise even before I was vegan, so I was not a big fan of it, but I do love the sounds of this vegan version from Ceara’s Kitchen, which uses avocado and dijon as main ingredients for the sauce. Sounds like a great dish to bring to a summer potluck!
Stuff from the Week that Made Me Happy
yoga & sculpt & starting a new yoga training for hot-style yoga; fun hangs with friends, especially cooking dinner for lovely gentleman who indulged my desire to play that fun game where you write a sentence, then pass the paper to the person next to you who draws a picture of the sentence, then the next person writes a sentence, and so on…do you know that game? it’s so fun, we had a blast :); meeting a rad new colleague who was just hired in my department! looks like i have a new Lefty feminist lady friend to share wine and research with!; the healing that comes from empathy, compassion, and understanding; this video; this band; realizing that my support network in boston is bigger and stronger than i thought, and feeling grateful for that; kitten snuggles; iced tea; the inside and outside warmth of hot sun on my bare shoulders; &my femme-as-fuck 5 inch platform red sandals that make me feel more like myself than any other shoes I own. <3
What made you happy this week? xoxoxo