Friday Five!

Dearest readers, I hope this blog post finds you well and enjoying whatever version of winter is gracing your air. I am coming off the kind of week that throws you in a good way. Being in Boston during the “snowstorm of historic proportions” was such an unexpected treasure. As an admittedly “type-A” personality, having a transportation ban force me to sit still with the quiet of a normally bustling city was just really….grounding. I was lucky enough to have some company and, in between that sitting still, got to spend the day catching up on work, making delicious food, playing scrabble, kitten-cuddling, drinking hot toddies, and watching way too many episodes of this strangely addictive show.

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I am also writing you from the other side of 30. I have had some really lovely celebrations with a couple more to come, and I am feeling grateful for everything that has gotten me to and through these past three decades of life. <3

And now, the Friday Five!

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Dear Sugar Radio

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If you haven’t already been exposed to the unmatched comfort that is Dear Sugar (or Cheryl Strayed in other forms), now is your chance. I recommend that every human read Tiny Beautiful Things, a book that is composed of letters from Strayed’s Rumpus advice column, and now there is an opportunity to listen to the same voice (plus the voice of the original Sugar, Steve Almond) on a weekly podcast. So far there are only two episodes, but already I am feeling that feeling I crave more and more….that, ‘someone gets it’-feeling. They talk about love and loss and sex and body image and family and just all the life stuff. The Sugars engage with letter writers’ dilemmas with heart and “radical empathy.” Hope you find some time to tune in too. <3

 Sexism is Making Women Sick (TW: sexual violence) 

Well, add this to the list of things I could have told you without a scientific study: living in fear, on a daily basis, that you may be attacked or harassed is bad for your mental and even physical health. Researchers found a substantive “link between physical safety concerns and psychological distress” when studying the impact of the various forms of harassment and threats women experience on a daily basis. Studies like these, and the discussions they encourage, lead Jessica Valentti to ask, “What does living with the fear of rape do to your mental well-being over time? What diagnosis do you give to the shaking hands you can’t stop after a stranger whispers “pussy” in your ear on your way to work?” If you are a woman, you may be reacting viscerally to even just these questions because you know the descriptions all too well. Valentti concludes, “There’s no vaccination we can get or drug we can take to lessen the impact that sexism has on women’s everyday lives. But perhaps recognizing just how sick it is making us – and that the damage it causes runs deep – we can start to convince others to take sexism (and the misogyny behind it) more seriously.” 

Radical Farmers Use Fresh Food to Fight Racial Injustice 

This article was so inspiring to read. Leah Penniman discusses a number of organizations that are using farming as a means of challenging racial injustice, including the Freedom Farm Alliance, Project Growth, and Soul Fire Farm. Penniman looks at the history of movements that connected land and food to liberation, and notes, “If we are to create a society that values black life, we cannot ignore the role of food and land. I believe that black people’s collective experience with slavery and sharecropping has created an aversion to the land and a sense that the land itself is an oppressor. The truth is that without good land and good food we cannot be truly free.” These orgs are making sure this truth is known.

Sweet Potato and Quinoa Chili 

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The upcoming Super Bowl is making me think about all those staple (theme-appropriate) comfort foods, and so of course vegan chili is on my mind. I love sweet potato chili and this version from The Simple Veganista sounds delicious!

Stuff from the Week That Made Me Happy

snow days;  yoga; sculpt; teaching my social movements class and seeing students get pretty psyched about our discussion of radical vs. mainstream approaches (even if they aren’t  siding with where I hope quite yet…); saved by the bell hooks; pema; kitten; montreal; friends’ good news (engagements! job opportunities! workplace victories!); my mom finally feeling a little less sick (she’s been fighting a horrendous months-long cold/cough); reflection (which admittedly also sometimes made me feel sad, but also happy); youtube workout videos (always, but especially weeks when it’s hard to get out of the house); green tea.

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo

Friday (Saturday) Five!

EDIT: It is Saturday, I know it is Saturday. I really thought I was going to get this up yesterday, then it didn’t happen. Please forgive the delay and enjoy the “Friday” Five. ;) 

This week flew by for me, probably because it’s my last week off before I’m back on campus. I have been working tirelessly to finish my Communication and Social Change syllabus, and I think I finally have an outline that I’m content (ish) with. Most of my fellow professor friends agree that there is never a point when a syllabus feels 100% ready, but school starting forces us to go with what we have. So, anyway, it may not be perfect, but I am hopeful that it will allow for a generative semester!

Speaking of social movements, and in honor of this Monday, here is a picture of MLK and Tich Nhat Hanh. <3

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“True peace is not merely the absence of tension; it is the presence of justice.”

 

In other news, I am officially one week away from turning 30. Anything I should try to squeeze in before I hit this milestone? Bucket-list ideas? Gimme, plz.

And now, here’s the Friday Five!

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Let’s Talk Seriously About Why Cyclists Break Traffic Laws

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 I used to be a bike commuter, then I became a public transit commuter, and now, sadly, I have to get around by car. I remember the mix of terror and liberation I felt commuting on my bike on the streets of Chicago and, for a short time, in Minneapolis. It’s an amazingly awesome thing to get around using your body and a form of transportation that doesn’t hurt the environment, but it’s also very dangerous because, as Emily Badger points out, of our society’s car-centric infrastructure. This article talks about how when biker’s break road laws, it’s often out of self-defense. But Badger asks an important question: if the infrastructure was better, would bikers be more law-abiding? A sociology study is seeking to find that answer (there’s a link if you want to participate!). It’s a good read and a good thing to pass along to any drivers you know who get misguidedly angry at the bicyclists. I know I have a lot of bike commuters in my life that I love, so please help keep them safe!

What’s Wrong with “All Lives Matter”? 

Any fan of Judith Butler probably found it impossible not to think of her theory of “livable/grievable” lives amidst #AllLivesMatter, the backlash to the #BlackLivesMatter movement. In this interview with the Times, Butler takes her theory and applies it to the lives of black people in the US. The whole thing is worth reading, but here’s a really important snippet: “When some people rejoin with “All Lives Matter” they misunderstand the problem, but not because their message is untrue. It is true that all lives matter, but it is equally true that not all lives are understood to matter which is precisely why it is most important to name the lives that have not mattered, and are struggling to matter in the way they deserve.”

The Power of 29: An Ode to Being Almost 30 

Allow me to be a bit self-indulgent in my last eight days as a 29 year old, yes? This article is all about women who are my age. Ann Friedman writes, “But even for women who realize they still have a lot of things to figure out, around age 30 a sense of acceptance begins to settle in. It’s when many of us experience our first big career payoffs, and allow ourselves to exhale a little because for once it doesn’t feel like we’re building our lives from scratch. On the cusp of 30 — in stark contrast with prior milestones like college graduation — you’re set up to finally start living your best life, or at least a realistic approximation of it. You realize you’ll never be a wunderkind, and you’re okay with that. In general, you give way fewer fucks.” Now, granted, it’s erasing a whole bunch of women (low-income women and other women who may not ever have “career payoffs”), but I think the idea of acceptance and giving fewer fucks is pretty universal. What say you, 29/29+-ers?

French Lentil & Vegetable Salad

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For as much as I love lentils, you’d think I’d eat them more, but really my lentil-ing is pretty infrequent. That’s why I was drawn to this recipe from Shira at In Pursuit of More. This is dish is full of so many favorites: lentils, yams, and brussels sprouts! Topped off with a balsamic and served as a warm salad…how delicious!

Stuff from the Week that Made Me Happy

getting back to juicing; seeing this delightful film; yoga; sculpt; reading even more of this book for tonight’s (!) feminist book club meeting (saturday update: feminist book club meeting! so fun!); feeling really good about my syllabus and the upcoming semester; kitten snuggles; turmeric root (#cantstopwontstop);  this precious video of a cat interrupting German news anchor’s weather forecast; watching the Golden Globes with MP and GS; when my work colleagues came to my sculpt class; baked apples & almond butter; friend phone calls; hugs; seeing the sunrise over the river on my way to teach an early AM yoga class and feeling like in that moment everything was perfect…

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo

WIAW

Hey! Short post today, but I managed to document almost everything I ate and drank on Monday so I can officially bring you a WIAW! (That’s “What I Ate Wednesday” for any newbies).

Started the day with warm water and lemon, as usual. Worked out, then made a giant batch of beet/apple/carrot/ginger/spinach juice. I thought I was going to have half of my batch and make something else, but my body asked me instead to just drink both servings of juice. I usually like to get some more protein in for breakfast (usually via protein powder in a smoothie), but a smoothie sounded too cold and, like I said, for whatever reason, that morning tons of juice sounded more appealing than making anything else.

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After that I headed to a coffee shop to syllabus-plan and enjoyed some green tea, as usual.

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I’ve mentioned before that my body prefers to graze rather than heartily-meal during the day. I snacked on these pretty delicious Two Moms in the Raw bars and a little after that some hummus and carrots.

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This carrot turmeric kale ginger soup has been my dinner for the majority of nights since the beginning of 2015. It’s so simple (all I do is boil carrots in water then put the water, carrots, kale, turmeric roots, and ginger root in the Vitamix, and whirl it all together), and it seriously makes me feel so great! The magic of turmeric is real! This time I added salt, a dollop of tahini, and some fresh pea sprouts on top.

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I’ve been solid about cutting last month’s post-dinner Christmas cookie habit, but I still like a little sumin’ sumin’ at the end of the night sometimes. Tonight I baked an apple, and put a dollop of almond butter, cinnamon, and goji berries on top. So yummy.

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Before bed every night I have lots of water, one glass of which is mixed with my can’t-live-without-it Natural Calm. (Great for sleep, digestion, and stress!)

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What have you been eating lately? xoox

Friday Five!

Happy end of the first full week of 2015! I have to say, I’ve sort of been crushin’ it in this new year. I’ve been making mostly really solid decisions, getting more and more sleep, getting tons of fresh turmeric root (a resolution, if you recall), making lovely connections with people, and being generally more mindful. That’s not to say some of the major challenges I’ve been enduring for the past year have been magically solved, but rather that I’m finding joy and presence in spite of them.

I set a really good tone for 2015 by attending a 10:30-midnight yoga class on New Year’s Eve. I honestly think that’s inspired a lot of the good over this past week. I’m excited to keep it going. : )

me, crushin' the new year.

me, crushin’ the new year.

And now, the Friday Five!

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Be a Person Who Gets Shit Done: A Gentle Guide

I love this Autostraddle piece because the author, Rachel, puts so much emphasis on list-making. I kid you not, the days I make a list for myself are more productive than the days I don’t, 100% of the time. Rachel gives some great specifics for effective lists and also provides more great tips for getting shit done. I’m going to bookmark it for days I’m feeling a little stuck.

Cauliflower Oatmeal

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I have some cauliflower in my fridge (after making Lacy’s incredibly delicious hummus), and now I’m obsessed with the idea of turning it into an oatmeal-like dish. I found this recipe on To Her Core, and plan to make it for breakfast today! Sounds great to me!

Declutter Your Kitchen

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I plan to do a big post on decluttering, but in the mean time, this article from Bon Appetit provides an excellent guide to declutter your kitchen. I just did this in my kitchen a few days ago and I felt instantly awesomer. (TW: they also use the language of “purging,” which rubs me the wrong way, but if you can get past that, it’s a really good read!)

Supporting Yourself and Others After a Trans Death or Violent Crime

Surely by now you’ve heard of the tragic death of transgender teenager Leelah Alcorn. Unfortunately, this is not a unique isolated incident, and as trans and allied communities know, traumatic incidents of violence occur regularly. This article offers ideas on taking care of yourself and other people during hard times like this. The goal, of course, is to put an end to the cis-hetero-patriarchal white supremacist culture that makes violences like these so commonplace—-to “fix society,” as Leelah implored—-but in the meantime, we could all use more tools to get us through these kinds of experiences.

Stuff from the Week That Made Me Happy

turmeric root; taking yoga; teaching sculpt; working on my syllabus for the Communication and Social Change class I’m teaching and getting so excited to talk to young people about social movements (and just feeling generally inspired because I’m immersed in all this literature about incredible organizing for change); Grrrl Prty; finally making friends with that regular at the coffee shop who I see everyday; pretty snow; out-nights; in-nights; getting awesomely positive feedback on my student evals back from last semester; tea; kitten; Pema Chodron; reading this book for book club; doing stuff for other people.

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo

Cookbook Review & Recipe: Happy Herbivore Holidays & Gatherings + Cream of Broccoli Soup

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If you have been following the blog for a while and/or if you know me in real life, you know that I’m pretty obsessed with holidays. I adore the way widely-celebrated days or seasons bring a collective buzz to daily life. I love the way decorations spruce up a space. I love the way they inspire a creative outfit (or five). And I love, love, love making theme-appropriate food to share with others during the holiday celebration.

So it should come as no surprise that I was delighted with the opportunity to review Lindsay Nixon’s Happy Herbivore Holidays & Gatherings cookbook. A couple years ago, I got to interview Lindsay about her last cookbook, Everyday Happy Herbivore, and knew I would be in for a treat with this new collection of vegan recipes.

The first and most prominent thing about Lindsay’s recipes that always stand out to me is that they are incredibly accessible. Happy Herbivore Holidays & Gatherings, like all of Happy Herbivore recipes, reflect an approach to veganism that, to me, feels like a perfect bridge from omnivore life to plant-based life. Lindsay doesn’t rely on fancy ingredients (no incredibly expensive “superfoods,” no plethora of fake meat), nor does she try to create things that stray too far from an omnivore diet. For example, Lindsay includes things like tacos, potato salad, chili, and veggie slaw. In short, this is a perfect book for new vegans and great recipes to make and share with skeptical omnivores.

The book is organized perfectly to my seasonal and theme-loving sensibilities. Lindsay divides her recipes into twelve different sections: Thanksgiving; Winter Holidays; New Year’s Eve; New Year’s Day; Tailgating & Appetizing Parties; Romantic Occasions; Brunch; Breakfast in Bed; Easter & Passover; Picnics, Barbecues & Outdoor Parties; Kid-Approved Parties;  Large (&Mixed) Crowd Entertaining: Party Bars. Each section is filled with sides, drinks, main courses, and desserts. She also includes a section called “The Pre-Party” which features  thorough information about planning for big meals and celebrations (and a guide on how to use her recipe icons). There is also an appendix at the end that features Holiday FAQs, menus, glossary of ingredients, and kitchen prep lingo. Whew! That’s a ton of information in one book; it’s a truly handy addition to a cookbook collection.

Because I got this book last month, I experimented most with the fall and winter recipes. I made a batch of the Soft Molasses Cookies to share at a holiday party, and they were a hit! The use of white beans gives it a hearty taste without needing any gluten-y flours. And with the help of so-good-for-you molasses, the sweetness is pleasantly subtle. The same day I baked those, I enjoyed Lindsay’s non-alcoholic hot toddy! Some of my other favorites from the book include the creamed kale, breakfast muesli, and the apple jack smoothie. There were also a bunch of recipes that I book marked for later because they look and sound SO GOOD: the “Cheese” Ball (tofu and chickpeas make the base); Kidney-Bean Quinoa Burgers; Chocolate Truffles (made with beans!); and the West African Peanut Stew. (I could keep going–there are a ton of really delicious sounding things in here!)

I really love the concept of this book, and all the recipes I tried really delivered in terms of taste. The only negatives of the book are just about my personal preferences: there are quite a bit of recipes that include gluten (not a big deal if you don’t have a problem with gluten!), and although she avoids fake meats and weird hard-to-find foods, she does use things like vegan yogurt and vegan mayo (which she also provides a recipe for) that I just try to avoid in my cooking. But, like I said, it really is a perfect “gateway” cookbook and I definitely recommend it to new vegans.

The nice folks at BenBella Books were kind enough to let me include a recipe from the book. Technically this Cream of Broccoli Soup is from the spring holiday section, but I think it would deliciously warming for the winter months!

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photo from Happy Herbivore Holidays & Gatherings

Cream of Broccoli Soup

Serves 2

I like to call this “Use Up Your Leftovers Cream of Broccoli Soup” because your leftover rice or baked potato is the secret “cream” ingredient.

2 ½ c broccoli (fresh or frozen), divided

2–3 c vegetable broth

1 small onion, diced

1 garlic clove, minced

½ c cooked rice or potato, chopped

1 c nondairy milk

basil or thyme (optional)

nutritional yeast, to taste

fresh lemon juice (optional)

red pepper flakes or black pepper for garnish

  1. If using fresh broccoli, remove the tough lower stalk but chop the other stalky parts.
  2. Line a large pot with vegetable broth and sauté onion and garlic until onion is translucent.
  3. Add 1⁄2 c broth and cooked rice or potato and let simmer until rice is waterlogged and extra liquid has all or mostly cooked off; if using potato, cook until potato is very soft and tender. (If using a raw (uncooked) potato, this may take longer and require more liquid then if using a leftover already cooked potato, such as a baked potato from the night before.)
  4. If using fresh broccoli, add another 1⁄2 c broth and broccoli, and cook until broccoli is very tender. (Note: If you want a soup with broccoli pieces, scoop some out before they’re waterlogged and very soft, and set aside to stir in at the end.)
  5. If using frozen broccoli, add broccoli at the end as the rice is finishing up (omit extra 1⁄2 c broth—just a splash will do) or cook briefly in microwave and add to soup with no extra broth.
  6. Transfer soup to a blender (or use an immersion blender) and puree with nondairy milk, plus additional broth as necessary to achieve a soup consistency. You can also add fresh or dried basil and thyme, plus salt and pepper to taste here.
  7. Return blended soup to your saucepan and let simmer, adding nutritional yeast to taste.
  8. Squeeze fresh lemon juice over soup before serving, if desired, and garnish with red pepper flakes or fresh black pepper.

Per serving (with rice): 168 calories, 1.8g fat, 33.9g carbohydrates, 4.4g fiber, 4.3g sugars, 5.7g protein

 Per serving (with potato): 149 calories, 1.8g fat, 30.3g carbohydrates, 6g fiber, 5g sugars, 5.8g protein

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Note: I received a complementary copy of the book to review, but all opinions are my own! 

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Hope you enjoy the soup and hope you might check out the book for you or gift it to someone you know! Happy New Year! xoxo 

2014 –> 2015

I’ve always been drawn to Nikki McClure’s art work (enough that I have two of her images tattooed on my body). The print above is called “Start Over.” I had a visceral reaction to both the image and the concept. As a yogi, as a person committed to social justice, as a person who has been alive for nearly three decades (an adult, decidedly), as an educator, as a friend, as a daughter, I am constantly working to be better than the moment before: more present, more mindful, kinder. But then life happens; and life in 2014 threw things at me that I had didn’t have tools for. Heartbreak hung like a cloud over my whole world for most of the year (and it ebbs and flows, in different variations, to this day). I had crushing realizations about how my past informs my present, and how much work it would take to break negative patterns. I learned, without choice, what it means to grieve the loss of life. I got through my first year living alone. I got through my first year teaching as an Assistant Professor. I started paying back debilitating student loans. I had days of loving my body and hating my body, days of loving myself and days of hating myself. I got through sitting with the pain of uncertainty, breathing through the discomfort of not knowing, making peace with my relative lack of control over certain circumstances, and realizing (on good days) my total control over my reaction to those circumstances.

Society was also doing a lot of growing in 2014. Injustice ran rampantly, and resistance blossomed fiercely.

It was a hard year.

It was also a liberating year. A year that I realized how strong and capable I really am. A year that taught me profound lessons. A year that didn’t really provide me any concrete answers, but showed me how I didn’t need them. How I could still be clouded with questions, but still choose happiness, in spite of it.

I don’t really believe in one calendar day completely wiping the slate clean of the baggage I collected and the (many) mistakes that I made in 2014. I do believe in growth though. Serious, deep-in-your-bones, transformative growth. I am committed to really embracing the shit out of what 2014 provided me, even the stuff (especially the stuff), that was so fucking hard.

I do feel like a change is gonna come. For me, for our world. I feel it in my gut.

But I’m a do-er as much as I’m a feel-er, and I need concrete, tangible steps. How will it be different? How will I practice doing good (for myself, for our world, for those things simultaneously, because everything is connected)? How will I keep breathing fully, how will I keep reacting mindfully? How will I get better at loving myself (and everyone else)?

This is where a list of resolutions comes in handy. I like lists. I also like the idea of resolution; from the root “resolve”:

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“decide firmly on a course of action.” 

from Latin resolvere, from re- (expressing intensive force) + solvere ‘loosen.’

Intensive force to loosen. I love that. Loosening, intensely; to breath deeper and live harder, with intention and joy. So here’s my list of resolutions to practice living better, every day:

1. Connect more with people. Avoid small talk if I have the option to exchange more meaningfully; have longer conversations in person, ask people about their feelings and opinions about things that matter.

2. Continue grounding rituals. Lemon water in the morning, self-care books and journaling/gratitude lists at night. Daily yoga practice, exercise that feels good, green smoothie or green juice for breakfast. Deep cleaning and de-cluttering; practicing the one-in/one-out rule.

3. Eight hours of sleep as much as possible. Lots of water.

4. Doing more for others. More care packages, more phone calls, more helping out. Complimenting people (mindfully) more often. Getting back to volunteer yoga teaching (ideally in the juvenile detention center I’ve been in contact with in Boston, but really anywhere that works out). And getting back involved with organizing and activism in whatever form best serves the struggle.

5. Writing for me (blog, creative personal stuff, maybe a zine!) at least a few times a week, and writing for school/work at least a little bit most days of the week.

6. Pausing. Really pausing before I react to things. Breathing during that pause, remembering what my words and actions mean in the world. Contributing more kind energy than hostile energy into the world (interpersonally, anyway…I’ll still probably be pretty hostile about social injustice). Practicing lovingkindness towards all beings (including myself). Saying and living, everyday: Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu. 

7. More music. It’s always been a big part of my life, but it’s taken different forms. I’d like to devote some dollars to seeing more shows, I’d like to make more mixes for myself and others, I’d like to go dancing more. And maybe, just maybe, playing some music again, too.

8. Start a podcast (already in the works with one of my fave ladies!).

9. Finding a way to honor my priorities so that the academy doesn’t run/ruin my life and so I don’t start to resent a job I love. Maybe this means turning down opportunities that seem best for my career. Maybe it doesn’t, but I am committed this year to making decisions that serve me best, and if moving halfway across the country again doesn’t serve me, I won’t do it. (Whoo, that’s a really scary thing to write!)

10.  More laughing. More tattoos. More turmeric root.

Wishing you all, and all beings everywhere, a very happy New Year.

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What are your resolutions? xoox

Coping with Eating Guilt, Toxic Comments, & Triggers

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Hey, long time, no write. Sorry about that. I was mega-busy with the end of the semester, then the day after I got my grades in, I made my way to Cleveland. I always think I’ll have some downtime when I’m home, but that never ends up happening. When I do get a break from family dinners, friend catch-ups, etc., I’m usually trying to cram in some work (this week, syllabus planning). But this post felt important to make time to write (for my own self-care, and, if you battle similar demons, for yours as well). If you participate in any kind of late winter celebrating (regardless of the form it takes), it’s quite possible that you’ve experienced any or all of the following: eating or drinking more than you normally do; seeing family members you don’t see often who make comments about your appearance or other people’s appearance (whether the comments are meant to be “good” or not); hearing friends, family, or celebrities talk about how “bad” they’ve been during the holidays and all the ways they will be “better” in the new year.

And if you have a history of EDs or body dysmorphia, you’re probably feeling triggered as fuck.

This past week, I experienced all of the above. A couple days into Christmas cookies after dinner, I started getting that weighed-down feeling that convinces you you’ve gained ten pounds in 48 hours. I started noticing my stomach (by “noticing” I mean obsessively looking at it, lifting up my shirt when I sat down to see how much “damage had been done” since I looked last, etc.).

When I didn’t hear a bunch of “You look great”‘s from family and friends, I convinced myself that this was because I looked terrible. And when I did hear, “You look great!,” I convinced myself that last time they saw me, I looked terrible. (There’s no winning with an ED thought pattern). When women I was with lamented about how much weight they’ve gained, I joined them, adding to the toxic chorus of female voices that might actually be saying: “I hate myself, I hate myself, I hate myself.” And when those same women said, “Next week, I start my diet,” I affirmed that I would too.

ED’s are hard to shake. Even after reading Lacy’s super rad holiday survival guide, and years into my recovery, weeks like these still really mess me up. And after acknowledging that I am in a bad place, I’m still left with that annoying and pervasive contradictory dilemma. On one side, I’m all, “Well, I’ll feel better if I lose these few extra pounds I (may or may not have) gained, so it’s not so bad to commit to start fresh on Jan 1,” and on the other, I’m all, “RIOTS NOT DIETS.” 

I’m not saying I have all the answers to avoid this (though, Lacy’s post is a good place to start), but I have managed to find some decent ways to cope with it when it happens. Here are some things I’ve done/am going to do to help re-set.

1. Decide what foods make you feel good from a health-perspective, not a weight-perspective, then eat those foods. Maybe this means no more nightly xmas cookies, maybe it means more green juice, but don’t do those things until you’re in a place where you’re doing it to feel better, not to lose weight. Otherwise, the self-loathing will cancel out the benefits of your green juice.

2. Talk to a friend (or a health coach) who understands. I feel super lucky to have a handful of ladies in  my life who I can turn to talk about these things, and when I do, I feel like a weight has been lifted (apt metaphor!). If you’re feeling a little alone on that front, consider booking a session with aforementioned bad-ass body-positive health coach Lacy Davis. I guarantee you that talking to her will help; (you can hold me to that).

3. Skip the Get Thin for 2015 women’s magazines. Read stuff that makes you feel awesome instead. Your favorite fiction, or Buddha books, or interviews with Kathleen Hannah, or whatever. Really anything that doesn’t make you hate yourself is better than those magazines.

4. Move your body. I am obviously a devotee to the Church of Physical Activity. For me, moving my body means morning workouts and yoga, and walking as much as possible the rest of the day. Maybe for you it means dancing in your bedroom. Maybe it means chasing your kid or your dog. Maybe it’s sex. Whatever it is, find some way to  get some physical activity in–those endorphins will help dismantle the toxic thoughts.

5. Remember that everything is temporary. My favorite lesson! My most easy-to-forget lesson! When you feel stuffed after eating awesome food with friends and family, remember that the stuffed feeling will go away soon. Remember that you’ve felt like this before, that you swore you’d never be able to shake the stuffed-guilt you have, and then remember that you actually did shake that feeling, and that you will again. Instead, focus on how good it tasted and how fun it was to share with others, drink a glass of water, and keep going.

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What else do you do to shake bad feelings that are common after holidays?