20 Lessons from My 20’s: Reflections from a woman at 30

Dear readers, apologies for another bit of absence on my end. I’ve found myself with somewhat less free time to blog as I’ve begun to work in earnest on some particular aspects of self-care that I have come to realize I’ve been neglecting. More on that, perhaps, in another post. 

For now, this is something I started working on about a month ago, on the morning of my 30th birthday.  It was about 5am and I had just awoke from a deeply disturbing dream and couldn’t go back to sleep. This is rare for me. But that morning, when sleep wouldn’t return, I got out of bed and started writing…. thoughts, lessons, advice…Just a lot of things I had come to realize as I reflected on the last decade of my life. I didn’t revisit the document again until recently. I added some more and decided to stop at 20. 20 for my 20’s. Here it is. 

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selfie. age 29.

selfie. age 29.

1. You do not need to impress the scene kids at school. You do not need to get nervous in the pit of your stomach when you go to the student center because you think you might run into the group of people who you assume know cooler bands than you. They do not know cooler bands than you. You are no less interesting than them, and you are a lot nicer, and you will look back and laugh that you were ever intimidated by their asymmetrical haircuts.

2. In general, you should stop caring about what people think of you, because this will come up again and again. The people who are worth it won’t make you feel so nervous about being who you are.

3. You will find love again. And again and again and again and again. You will think you will never find it again, or feel it again, but you will. Please especially remember this when you think you have found “the one.” Know that anyone who makes you feel that horrible is not the one. Know that you will find kinder and more real love very soon. Know that you deserve better.

4. The cats you have as pets children in your grown-up life will be some of the most important and wonderful things that ever happen to you. You will learn to take care of something and put it’s needs before your own. When you think you are a shit person with nothing going right, you will remember that you have kept alive a living being who thinks you are the most wonderful person on the planet. You will have cats that get you through the deepest kind of heartbreak and the most inconsolable of loneliness—not because of what they do for you, but because you realize you are capable of doing all that you do for them. This will be helpful for you when you are trying to decide if you are ever capable of having a child (which you will never do in your 20s, so don’t sweat it); you will feel like maybe you are maternal after all.

5. Just because that guy has good politics about the war and capitalism and says he’s a feminist does not mean it is okay that he had sex with you when you were blackout drunk. This will only remind you of all the previous times in your life when men have done things to your body without your consent and flashes of it will burgeon, from time to time, like a dull and burning pain in the pit of your stomach. You will, in your later 20s, do a lot of processing about not just that time, but the times before that, when you became a statistic, and you will promise yourself to unlearn the way those incidents made you feel undeserving of kind and respectful relationships. This will not be easy.

6. Being vegan is not a phase. Being an activist and wanting to fix our broken system is not a phase. Being queer is not a phase. Don’t let anyone be dismissive of the parts of yourself that you feel in your gut are true. They are you and they aren’t going anywhere.

7. Stop making fun of yoga. In a few years, it will save your life.

8. In many ways, you are very mature for your age, and always have been. In many other ways, you are extremely immature and have so much more to learn.

9. Stop stressing out so much about what tattoos to get. You will, inevitably, have chosen different things at different points in life, but that’s sort of the point. When you hit thirty, you won’t regret a single tattoo you have because they will act as persistent story-tellers of a time and a place and a you that existed once upon a time. You will be grateful for these ink-scar memories.

10. You will think nothing will be better than the community you had in Cleveland, then you will find it bigger and brighter in Chicago. You will think nothing will be better than the community you had in Chicago, then you will find it stronger and more securely in Minneapolis. You will think nothing will be better than the community you had in Minneapolis, and you may be right, but you will find lovely people and solid routine in Boston and you will grow to love elements of even the hardest years of your life in that city.

11. You will not figure out what you want to do career-wise until the last week of your senior year of college. This may feel too late, but it’s not. You will get your shit together and start on a path that you tackle full-force. You will succeed in so many ways on this path, but you will also question it. 50% of your job will be “doing what you love” (teaching), but the rest of it will be lessons in not having control over big important parts of your life. Lessons about thick skin and being over-worked and under-paid and sacrificing your personal life. You will think many days that you want to leave academia, but you decide that you will not make any move to leave unless you can think of something you’d rather be doing. You will not think of something you’d rather be doing.

12. You will spend so many minutes hating your body, that the minutes will add into days then months then years. It will get better, then it will get worse, and then better again. Tell your body you love it everyday. Say it over and over until you believe it.

13. When you are feeling the world and you are in it, it will be magic and it will be heavy. You will try so desperately to hold on to the magic parts but they will fade, and you will be left with the heaviness. You will build up walls to avoid the fall, and the magic will become less. You will be cognizant of this and you will, every once in a while, re-read this, just to remember.

14. Breakups don’t get easier. They get harder.

15. You will have no choice but to live with the decisions you make and you will never know for certain if many of these decisions were “right.” But you will have to cope with them, and more important learn from them, and more important than that, grow from them. This process will help you make better decisions–(and you will come to find that the best decisions are the ones that feel good in your gut and honor the truest and kindest parts of who you are; the best decisions are made when you act from a place of compassion for yourself and others)–the next time around.

16. Trust the power of getting rid of shit. You will find decluttering to be one of your most effective self-care tools.

17. You will spend most of your 20s thinking you are stronger than your past. You will think that traumatic events from your childhood and adolescence won’t impact you. But you will be wrong. This will all come to a head very soon. When life becomes the most unstable it’s been in your adult life, you will begin enacting patterns you didn’t know you learned. You will have to work very hard to break these patterns. But you will have the tools to do it. You will be okay.

18. You are worthy and deserving of love. You will have to keep re-learning this. Don’t give up.

19. That night you felt like your life was falling apart but had a sense that it wouldn’t be a big deal later? You were right, it won’t be a big deal. But keep feeling those emo-feelings, 21-year old Raechel. It means your heart is still beating.

20. Love is not enough. But it is worth all the hullaballoo.

Review: The Best Green Smoothies On the Planet

Hello from the arctic Northeast! You might think it’s odd to be writing a post about smoothies in the dead of winter, but me and smoothies are kind of ride or die. I like them year-round, because even if they go down cold, the post-nutritious breakfast inner-glow warms me up just right.

I think those of us who are into smoothie breakfasts probably think we’ve seen it all when it comes to these blended delights. There are only so many combinations of fruits and veggies that one can come up with, right? TheBestGreenSmoothies_FrontCover Wrong. I was delighted to discover that Tracy Russell’s The Best Green Smoothies on the Planet was full of ideas I had never entertained. Soaking goji berries, for instance, had never occurred to me, but it made for an awesome Berry-Chia Seed Smoothie. And who would have thought broccoli, kiwi, and grapes would be a good combo? (It was!)

The book is divided into two sections, with twelve total chapters. Part One is an Introduction to Green Smoothies, and is full of tons of information, which would be especially helpful for novices. Russell answers questions about the benefits of green smoothies, whether or not to do an all smoothie “cleanse” (no!), and the best ingredient base to use for smoothies. She also responds to common myths about smoothies, refuting them with well-researched rebuttals.

Part Two is the fun part: the recipes! Russel’s 150 smoothie recipes are divided into the following sections: Detox and Cleansing Green Smoothies, Weight Loss Green Smoothies, Antioxidant Green Smoothies, Fitness and Energy Green Smoothies, Immune-Boosting Green Smoothies, Calcium-Rich Green Smoothies, Heart Healthy Green Smoothies, Iron Rich Green Smoothies, and Mood-Enhancing Green Smoothies. Whew! It’s a truly impressive collection of recipes and I really like the category division. In addition to the ones I mentioned above, I was also really excited by the Pineapple Ginger Smoothie, the Maca Almond Smoothie, and the Ginger-Citrus Green Smoothie. I should mention, all the recipes are vegan and gluten-free.

My biggest critique of the book is that there are no pictures other than on the cover, and I think our Pinterest-obsessed culture is turned off by a lack of images. But I hope this doesn’t deter you from checking out the book, or, even better, gifting it to a newbie green smoothie maker!

BenBella Publishers have kindly offered to share one of the recipes from the book with all of you! I love this one because it incorporates *sweet potatoes* into a smoothie! It is creamy, comforting, nutritious, and delicious!

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recipe and excerpt from The Best Green Smoothies on the Planet

Sweet potato is an often overlooked hidden gem when it comes to green smoothie ingredients. Just half a cup of sweet potato contains 2 grams of protein, 13 percent of your recommended daily value of fiber, and 137 percent of your recommended daily value of vitamin A (as beta-carotene). Sweet potato is also loaded with antioxidants. You can use it raw or cooked. I prefer to use cooked and cooled sweet potato since cooking it brings out more of the flavor.

INGREDIENTS

½ cup cubed sweet potato, cooked and cooled

1 medium banana, peeled

1 medium carrot, sliced

¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon

¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg

1 cup butterhead lettuce, torn

8 ounces homemade almond milk (page 64)

NUTRITION INFO Calories: 26 Fat: 1g Protein: 6g Carbs: 54g Calcium: 7% Iron: 1.9mg Vitamin A: 223% Vitamin C: 47%

Sounds great, doesn’t it?

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Note: I was given a complimentary copy of the book in exchange for a review, but all opinions are my own. 

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What’s your favorite smoothie to make? 

Friday Five!

Oh.my.goodness. The past couple weeks have been a lot. A combination of incredibly intense work-related travel and other work busy-ness, coupled with non-stop, pummeling, overwhelming amounts of snow have left me feeling exhausted, stressed, sick, and a little bit beaten up.

I’m not quite over the hump that is the current work-related stress (nor am I over the, you know, ever-present #feelings that have just been all #cantstopwontstop on me lately), but I just have to remember to keep breathing….

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And Friday Five-ing. So here goes!

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#1 Reason You’re Not Losing Weight on Paleo

Before you raise your eyebrows at the title of this, listen to Body Image Coach Summer Innanen’s answer; why aren’t you losing weight on “x” diet?: because you don’t have to lose weight. Summer describes what many of us probably know all too well: doing everything “correctly,” still not losing weight, hating ourselves for it and obsessing about what other magic thing we could be doing to “lean out.” Summer importantly reminds us that not everyone has a body that is meant to be skinny/toned/whatever body ideal you are craving but not obtaining. It’s a simple message, but one so many of us are resistant to. The rest of the article provides a great list of questions to ask yourself if you are still attempting to get a particular body type that you don’t currently possess—spoiler alert, most of the answers will reveal that you are awesome just the way you are.

Yoga Studios Unite to Racially Profile

This article illustrates so much of what is wrong with contemporary Western yoga culture.  When some stolen items started getting reported at a variety of yoga studios, the teachers banned together to “catch the criminal,” who was reported to be a black male. This article from (a kindred professor-by-day/yoga-teacher-by-night) Sabrina Strings points out just how effed up it is to go around celebrating union and freedom and non-harming, and then to contribute to the criminalization of black men. The profiling efforts led to the arrest of a man who wasn’t actually the perpetrator, and the yoga teacher’s response was, “Oh darn, guess we still have a bad guy on the loose.” Strings wonders how the united front of teachers  couldn’t have occurred when the #BlackLivesMatter movement needed a united front of supporters. It’s a really important read about the hypocrisy of this culture.

Chapel Hill Shooting and Western Media Bigotry

The recent murders of three Muslim students by a white man are devastating; and the media’s response is telling. Mohamed Elmarsy writes, “Western media outlets will likely frame the most recent perpetrator of what some speculate is an anti-Muslim crime in the same way they frame most anti-Muslim criminals – as crazed, misguided bigots who acted alone. If past coverage is any indication, there will likely be very little suggestion that the killer acted on the basis of an ideology or as part of any larger pattern or system….But what if acts of anti-Muslim violence are consistent with at least some strands of current western ideology? What if Islamophobia has become so commonplace, so accepted, that it now represents a hegemonic system of thought, at least for relatively large pockets of people in some regions of the West?” Important questions we must confront.

Raw Vegan Valentine’s Day Frosted Cookies

So, I am admittedly not quite as stoked for Valentine’s Day as I have been in year’s past, but you know I’m always down for a theme-y treat. I love the look of these sugar-free, gluten-free, raw vegan cookies because they remind me of those grocery store sugar cookies I used to love as a kid. These beauties from Sweetly Raw, however, won’t leave you feeling like garbage. The recipe uses beet powder for the pink frosting color, but I bet beet juice would work too!

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Stuff from the Week that Made Me Happy

juicy yoga classes; my yoga community; when my students were super receptive to our discussion on the Black Power movement; a diss chapter-turned-article of mine finally getting published in an academic journal i actually respect the shit out of; job validation (albeit validation that leads to heavy decision-making); more bday gifts and cards that have continued to trickle in the mail; sleep; kitten; how all the natural remedies i used when i started to feel sick actually worked; the kind of friends that drive you to the airport; ginger; broad city (i was on the fence, but i’m hooked now); having more to do than seems actually feasible to accomplish, and accomplishing it all anyway; a covered space to put my car during the snow; green tea; love, in a variety of forms; missy e.

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoox

Friday Five!

Dearest readers, I hope this blog post finds you well and enjoying whatever version of winter is gracing your air. I am coming off the kind of week that throws you in a good way. Being in Boston during the “snowstorm of historic proportions” was such an unexpected treasure. As an admittedly “type-A” personality, having a transportation ban force me to sit still with the quiet of a normally bustling city was just really….grounding. I was lucky enough to have some company and, in between that sitting still, got to spend the day catching up on work, making delicious food, playing scrabble, kitten-cuddling, drinking hot toddies, and watching way too many episodes of this strangely addictive show.

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I am also writing you from the other side of 30. I have had some really lovely celebrations with a couple more to come, and I am feeling grateful for everything that has gotten me to and through these past three decades of life. <3

And now, the Friday Five!

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Dear Sugar Radio

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If you haven’t already been exposed to the unmatched comfort that is Dear Sugar (or Cheryl Strayed in other forms), now is your chance. I recommend that every human read Tiny Beautiful Things, a book that is composed of letters from Strayed’s Rumpus advice column, and now there is an opportunity to listen to the same voice (plus the voice of the original Sugar, Steve Almond) on a weekly podcast. So far there are only two episodes, but already I am feeling that feeling I crave more and more….that, ‘someone gets it’-feeling. They talk about love and loss and sex and body image and family and just all the life stuff. The Sugars engage with letter writers’ dilemmas with heart and “radical empathy.” Hope you find some time to tune in too. <3

 Sexism is Making Women Sick (TW: sexual violence) 

Well, add this to the list of things I could have told you without a scientific study: living in fear, on a daily basis, that you may be attacked or harassed is bad for your mental and even physical health. Researchers found a substantive “link between physical safety concerns and psychological distress” when studying the impact of the various forms of harassment and threats women experience on a daily basis. Studies like these, and the discussions they encourage, lead Jessica Valentti to ask, “What does living with the fear of rape do to your mental well-being over time? What diagnosis do you give to the shaking hands you can’t stop after a stranger whispers “pussy” in your ear on your way to work?” If you are a woman, you may be reacting viscerally to even just these questions because you know the descriptions all too well. Valentti concludes, “There’s no vaccination we can get or drug we can take to lessen the impact that sexism has on women’s everyday lives. But perhaps recognizing just how sick it is making us – and that the damage it causes runs deep – we can start to convince others to take sexism (and the misogyny behind it) more seriously.” 

Radical Farmers Use Fresh Food to Fight Racial Injustice 

This article was so inspiring to read. Leah Penniman discusses a number of organizations that are using farming as a means of challenging racial injustice, including the Freedom Farm Alliance, Project Growth, and Soul Fire Farm. Penniman looks at the history of movements that connected land and food to liberation, and notes, “If we are to create a society that values black life, we cannot ignore the role of food and land. I believe that black people’s collective experience with slavery and sharecropping has created an aversion to the land and a sense that the land itself is an oppressor. The truth is that without good land and good food we cannot be truly free.” These orgs are making sure this truth is known.

Sweet Potato and Quinoa Chili 

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The upcoming Super Bowl is making me think about all those staple (theme-appropriate) comfort foods, and so of course vegan chili is on my mind. I love sweet potato chili and this version from The Simple Veganista sounds delicious!

Stuff from the Week That Made Me Happy

snow days;  yoga; sculpt; teaching my social movements class and seeing students get pretty psyched about our discussion of radical vs. mainstream approaches (even if they aren’t  siding with where I hope quite yet…); saved by the bell hooks; pema; kitten; montreal; friends’ good news (engagements! job opportunities! workplace victories!); my mom finally feeling a little less sick (she’s been fighting a horrendous months-long cold/cough); reflection (which admittedly also sometimes made me feel sad, but also happy); youtube workout videos (always, but especially weeks when it’s hard to get out of the house); green tea.

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo

Friday (Saturday) Five!

EDIT: It is Saturday, I know it is Saturday. I really thought I was going to get this up yesterday, then it didn’t happen. Please forgive the delay and enjoy the “Friday” Five. ;) 

This week flew by for me, probably because it’s my last week off before I’m back on campus. I have been working tirelessly to finish my Communication and Social Change syllabus, and I think I finally have an outline that I’m content (ish) with. Most of my fellow professor friends agree that there is never a point when a syllabus feels 100% ready, but school starting forces us to go with what we have. So, anyway, it may not be perfect, but I am hopeful that it will allow for a generative semester!

Speaking of social movements, and in honor of this Monday, here is a picture of MLK and Tich Nhat Hanh. <3

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“True peace is not merely the absence of tension; it is the presence of justice.”

 

In other news, I am officially one week away from turning 30. Anything I should try to squeeze in before I hit this milestone? Bucket-list ideas? Gimme, plz.

And now, here’s the Friday Five!

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Let’s Talk Seriously About Why Cyclists Break Traffic Laws

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 I used to be a bike commuter, then I became a public transit commuter, and now, sadly, I have to get around by car. I remember the mix of terror and liberation I felt commuting on my bike on the streets of Chicago and, for a short time, in Minneapolis. It’s an amazingly awesome thing to get around using your body and a form of transportation that doesn’t hurt the environment, but it’s also very dangerous because, as Emily Badger points out, of our society’s car-centric infrastructure. This article talks about how when biker’s break road laws, it’s often out of self-defense. But Badger asks an important question: if the infrastructure was better, would bikers be more law-abiding? A sociology study is seeking to find that answer (there’s a link if you want to participate!). It’s a good read and a good thing to pass along to any drivers you know who get misguidedly angry at the bicyclists. I know I have a lot of bike commuters in my life that I love, so please help keep them safe!

What’s Wrong with “All Lives Matter”? 

Any fan of Judith Butler probably found it impossible not to think of her theory of “livable/grievable” lives amidst #AllLivesMatter, the backlash to the #BlackLivesMatter movement. In this interview with the Times, Butler takes her theory and applies it to the lives of black people in the US. The whole thing is worth reading, but here’s a really important snippet: “When some people rejoin with “All Lives Matter” they misunderstand the problem, but not because their message is untrue. It is true that all lives matter, but it is equally true that not all lives are understood to matter which is precisely why it is most important to name the lives that have not mattered, and are struggling to matter in the way they deserve.”

The Power of 29: An Ode to Being Almost 30 

Allow me to be a bit self-indulgent in my last eight days as a 29 year old, yes? This article is all about women who are my age. Ann Friedman writes, “But even for women who realize they still have a lot of things to figure out, around age 30 a sense of acceptance begins to settle in. It’s when many of us experience our first big career payoffs, and allow ourselves to exhale a little because for once it doesn’t feel like we’re building our lives from scratch. On the cusp of 30 — in stark contrast with prior milestones like college graduation — you’re set up to finally start living your best life, or at least a realistic approximation of it. You realize you’ll never be a wunderkind, and you’re okay with that. In general, you give way fewer fucks.” Now, granted, it’s erasing a whole bunch of women (low-income women and other women who may not ever have “career payoffs”), but I think the idea of acceptance and giving fewer fucks is pretty universal. What say you, 29/29+-ers?

French Lentil & Vegetable Salad

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For as much as I love lentils, you’d think I’d eat them more, but really my lentil-ing is pretty infrequent. That’s why I was drawn to this recipe from Shira at In Pursuit of More. This is dish is full of so many favorites: lentils, yams, and brussels sprouts! Topped off with a balsamic and served as a warm salad…how delicious!

Stuff from the Week that Made Me Happy

getting back to juicing; seeing this delightful film; yoga; sculpt; reading even more of this book for tonight’s (!) feminist book club meeting (saturday update: feminist book club meeting! so fun!); feeling really good about my syllabus and the upcoming semester; kitten snuggles; turmeric root (#cantstopwontstop);  this precious video of a cat interrupting German news anchor’s weather forecast; watching the Golden Globes with MP and GS; when my work colleagues came to my sculpt class; baked apples & almond butter; friend phone calls; hugs; seeing the sunrise over the river on my way to teach an early AM yoga class and feeling like in that moment everything was perfect…

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo

WIAW

Hey! Short post today, but I managed to document almost everything I ate and drank on Monday so I can officially bring you a WIAW! (That’s “What I Ate Wednesday” for any newbies).

Started the day with warm water and lemon, as usual. Worked out, then made a giant batch of beet/apple/carrot/ginger/spinach juice. I thought I was going to have half of my batch and make something else, but my body asked me instead to just drink both servings of juice. I usually like to get some more protein in for breakfast (usually via protein powder in a smoothie), but a smoothie sounded too cold and, like I said, for whatever reason, that morning tons of juice sounded more appealing than making anything else.

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After that I headed to a coffee shop to syllabus-plan and enjoyed some green tea, as usual.

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I’ve mentioned before that my body prefers to graze rather than heartily-meal during the day. I snacked on these pretty delicious Two Moms in the Raw bars and a little after that some hummus and carrots.

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This carrot turmeric kale ginger soup has been my dinner for the majority of nights since the beginning of 2015. It’s so simple (all I do is boil carrots in water then put the water, carrots, kale, turmeric roots, and ginger root in the Vitamix, and whirl it all together), and it seriously makes me feel so great! The magic of turmeric is real! This time I added salt, a dollop of tahini, and some fresh pea sprouts on top.

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I’ve been solid about cutting last month’s post-dinner Christmas cookie habit, but I still like a little sumin’ sumin’ at the end of the night sometimes. Tonight I baked an apple, and put a dollop of almond butter, cinnamon, and goji berries on top. So yummy.

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Before bed every night I have lots of water, one glass of which is mixed with my can’t-live-without-it Natural Calm. (Great for sleep, digestion, and stress!)

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What have you been eating lately? xoox

Friday Five!

Happy end of the first full week of 2015! I have to say, I’ve sort of been crushin’ it in this new year. I’ve been making mostly really solid decisions, getting more and more sleep, getting tons of fresh turmeric root (a resolution, if you recall), making lovely connections with people, and being generally more mindful. That’s not to say some of the major challenges I’ve been enduring for the past year have been magically solved, but rather that I’m finding joy and presence in spite of them.

I set a really good tone for 2015 by attending a 10:30-midnight yoga class on New Year’s Eve. I honestly think that’s inspired a lot of the good over this past week. I’m excited to keep it going. : )

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me, crushin’ the new year.

And now, the Friday Five!

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Be a Person Who Gets Shit Done: A Gentle Guide

I love this Autostraddle piece because the author, Rachel, puts so much emphasis on list-making. I kid you not, the days I make a list for myself are more productive than the days I don’t, 100% of the time. Rachel gives some great specifics for effective lists and also provides more great tips for getting shit done. I’m going to bookmark it for days I’m feeling a little stuck.

Cauliflower Oatmeal

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I have some cauliflower in my fridge (after making Lacy’s incredibly delicious hummus), and now I’m obsessed with the idea of turning it into an oatmeal-like dish. I found this recipe on To Her Core, and plan to make it for breakfast today! Sounds great to me!

Declutter Your Kitchen

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I plan to do a big post on decluttering, but in the mean time, this article from Bon Appetit provides an excellent guide to declutter your kitchen. I just did this in my kitchen a few days ago and I felt instantly awesomer. (TW: they also use the language of “purging,” which rubs me the wrong way, but if you can get past that, it’s a really good read!)

Supporting Yourself and Others After a Trans Death or Violent Crime

Surely by now you’ve heard of the tragic death of transgender teenager Leelah Alcorn. Unfortunately, this is not a unique isolated incident, and as trans and allied communities know, traumatic incidents of violence occur regularly. This article offers ideas on taking care of yourself and other people during hard times like this. The goal, of course, is to put an end to the cis-hetero-patriarchal white supremacist culture that makes violences like these so commonplace—-to “fix society,” as Leelah implored—-but in the meantime, we could all use more tools to get us through these kinds of experiences.

Stuff from the Week That Made Me Happy

turmeric root; taking yoga; teaching sculpt; working on my syllabus for the Communication and Social Change class I’m teaching and getting so excited to talk to young people about social movements (and just feeling generally inspired because I’m immersed in all this literature about incredible organizing for change); Grrrl Prty; finally making friends with that regular at the coffee shop who I see everyday; pretty snow; out-nights; in-nights; getting awesomely positive feedback on my student evals back from last semester; tea; kitten; Pema Chodron; reading this book for book club; doing stuff for other people.

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What made you happy this week? Have a great weekend! xoxo